Speaking Up For Your Children

How many times have you found yourself in a situation where someone has acted inappropriately towards your children or children in your care?  What I mean by inappropriate is a adult has taken it upon themselves to threaten your child with an authority they don’t have.  Let me describe my situation.

While we were enjoying our time at the museum the other day a staff member took it upon herself to threaten Tenneille and another child in the children’s play area for not having their shoes on (I don’t think they had their shoes off for more than an minute as I had only stepped away from where they were playing and they had had their shoes on till this point).  She told them that if they didn’t put their shoes on right away then they would have to go home.  Her tone of voice was appalling and loud (yes, she was turning head from the other side of a noisy room), coupled with the fact she was standing over them with hands on her hips.  She appeared very intimidating to the children.  I stepped in and asked her not to threaten the kids and all she needed to do was ask them to please put their shoes on.  She started going on about safety amongst other things (oh yes, I got a lecture too), which I respected from a museum point of view, but reminded her that there was no need to threaten and that it wasn’t her right to say to the children they would go home if they didn’t do as she said.  I highly doubt she would have spoken to an adult in such a manner.

In the past I haven’t always said what I should have at the time, but as the years have passed on this parenting journey, I feel comfortable in what I feel is appropriate behaviour of others towards my children.  I am the voice of my children while they are young and I choose to protect them from people who are essentially bullies.  I want my children to grow up knowing that they have a voice and not be afraid to speak up for themselves when they find themselves in threatening situations.


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  • George

    I bet she would talk to an adult that way! Maybe not the same words but a similar tone. Some people are just so insecure that that they think if they ask nicely they simply won’t get taken notice of. So they resort to that sort of attitude.
    Good on you for helping her learn a better way to communicate 🙂

    • Jacinta

      Thanks George. She sure was something! Hopefully she will think about her approach next time. Who knows. Lovely to hear from you. Jacinta

  • http://www.wildflowerdancing.blogspot.com tamara

    Argh. That kind of thing drives me nuts!! Good on you for standing up to her at the time; I usually end up thinking of all the things I’d like to say to them later, and fuming into the small hours.
    See you for our lunch date! Anything else you’d like to put on the agenda for discussion? ;P

    • Jacinta

      I think as I get further into my 30’s, I am getting very intolerant of bullies. Definitely wasn’t going to let her take it out on two 4 year old girls who were unaware of the ‘no shoes’ policy. Looking forward to our lunch date. I’m sure I could add more to our discussion agenda, just hope it isn’t spit in your eye, as I have a rant about all sorts of things, he, he! Jxx